I just finished reading this week's Time magazine article 'Unfaithfully Yours' by Caitlin Flanagan. Such sad but true observation on what seems to be happening to the institution of marriage in today's society. Ugh, I need a real pick-me-up after that...  How about battling the sometimes, let's face it, boring state that is life-long coupledom by choosing to celebrate your lasting union with a renewing of your wedding vows?  Seems a vastly more enriching approach for the whole family over the self-destructive mid-life crisis idiocy some of our leading politicians opt for these days! 

If you want to read up on etiquette and advice out there for reaffirmation of vows ceremonies, you can check out sites like idotaketwo.com or theknot.com's article How-To-Renew.  While some may say wait for your next big landmark anniversary to do it, I say... if the feeling is there now between the two of you to reconnect and strengthen your relationship in such a meaningful way, then go for it!  So what if it's not your big gold or silver year, who won't love the excuse to come to the beach either way?    

Whether you want to go quiet and casual with just close family or really live it up in fancy threads and a big party, there are so many memorable ways to renew your vows on the Outer Banks!  Here's one idea for the early risers out there who want to say "I Do" again:  Seaside Ceremonies offers a Sunrise Ceremony on the oceanfront.  What a unique way to commemorate one of the most special events in your life, and just think how beautiful your photos will be!

Please comment on this post if you've renewed your vows on the Outer Banks!  We'd love to hear some real OBX vow renewals stories!  In the meantime, if you're wondering what to plan for your Outer Banks vows renewal ceremony, I came across an article on line that covers many ideas to get you thinking about how you want to celebrate the day with your spouse, family and friends: 

• "...The vows are the focus of the ceremony. Some couples write poems to each other or thank each other for contributing to a loving partnership. Other couples may want to read standard vows or simply renew their original wedding vows. Whatever your style or preference, keep in mind that it is your day and you are welcome to express whatever feelings you have. Some people are very private and don't do well in emotional situations and may want a very low-key ceremony. Whatever you choose, it should be a reflection of how you feel about your relationship - put as much or as little as you like into it..."
• "...Since children and grandchildren were most likely not in attendance at your wedding, they can play a special role at your renewal ceremony. Many couples like to include children as part of the ceremony as an affirmation of the joys of marriage and family life. Children can act as witnesses or light the unity candles. Children or grandchildren can give the toast or even host the reception. Some couples will enjoy recreating their wedding day by having the best man and maid of honor participate in the renewal ceremony. Be assured that they will be pleased to be a part of your ceremony and express their love in such a beautiful way..."
• "...Once the renewal of wedding vows is over, what plans will you make for the rest of the day? Do you want to invite guests to a luncheon at your favorite restaurant? What about a barbecue hosted by your eldest son? A picnic at the beach or cocktails and hors d'oeuvres in your backyard? Whether or not you invite guests to a repast depends mostly on your budget. Some couples choose to have an elaborate gathering to make up for the simple wedding held years earlier. Other couples will find that close friends or children will want to plan and pay for the reception as a special gift to the couple. Your budget and circumstances will guide you in your final selection. Remember, no one will be disappointed with your choice - you've earned the right to have the ceremony you want..."

To see this article by Carol Meyer in its entirety, click here:  WedAlert.com's Wedding Planning Blog.

Until Next Time,
Your OBX Wedding Blogger